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Post by Harm's Way on Jan 21, 2006 12:30:41 GMT -5
Dear Hadley
This is a bit embarassing and im not sure if you can help but for the last few months I have been getting really bad breakouts of spots. Ive tried everything but nothing is working at all.
But thats not the worst part. Even since Ive gone from clean and clear skin to this horrid pimple covered mess, I can tell my relationship with my girlfriend is suffering. I keep getting paranoid that she doesnt find me attractive anymore and that shes almost ashamed to be around me because of the way i look.
I know im a teenager and Its natural to get a few spots but I hate feeling so ashamed that im embarassing my girlfriend and that no matter what I seem to do, I cant help it.
Do you know anything I can do to maybe explain how I feel to her, or an advice on getting rid of the spots?
Thanks.
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Post by Justhad on Jan 23, 2006 22:34:10 GMT -5
Harm's Way,
Sorry for the late response - school's had me busy!
It's very natural for any teenager, or young adult, to get breakouts. I myself have had one on the edge of my lip all week, and I hate it! And another one on the side of my mouth. I know exactly what the first thing comes to mind - how people are looking at you! I know you're already self conscious without having to deal with how a signifigant other feels. First, if you're doing all necessary hygiene stuff, you can't ask for more. Sometimes a speciality soap that works great for acne can help. If you've changed shampoo lately, that could also be the cause. (That caused me to break out once.)
I really hope that your girlfriend can understand. Because, my theory is that if she can't love you even with a few zits, she's not worth it. But I know that it's easier said than done. You need to tell her how you feel, tell her that you don't want a little bit of acne to come between the two of you. People will remember you the same even when you clear it up - you'll even look better than before! Teen stuff comes and goes and it's rough - baring your soul (mildly) and constant care of your face, and everything should soon smoothe out.
If you need anything else - let me know!
Hope this helps,
Hadley
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Post by gerry on Jan 24, 2006 21:56:14 GMT -5
As an extra note.
Nobody knows your face like you do.
What can be a glaring deformation to you may not even be noticed by others.
Often times, what you see as a pimple covered mess is only a little red spot to others.
If your girlfriend is acting differently, it may be because of other reasons.
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Post by Chosen Prophecy on Jan 24, 2006 22:10:01 GMT -5
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Post by Alyrenee on Jan 24, 2006 23:37:54 GMT -5
Diet also makes things worse. Drink as much water as possible...try not to touch your face too much and things like phones or helmet chin straps, hair gel, hairspray and that sort of thing can all lead to acne. I am 30 and get worse acne now than i did when i was 15. For women, taking birth control pills can help a whole lot...but obviously that won't work for you. I use this routine and it works very well...wash your face very gently with a non medicated pure soap...like Cetaphil. Then apply a pretty large amount of a 2.5% benzoyl peroxide cream (like Neutrogena On the Spot). 2.5% won't kill your face like a 10% solution will and is just as effective if not more so. Then apply a moisturizer over that to keep your face from getting too dry. this should be a non-oily non-medicated moisturizer..with sunblock. Do this in the morning and at night. For the first few days, only a put a little bit of acne medication...then keep putting more and more on each week. Your face should start to clear up...though it might get a little worse before it gets better. You will still get an occasional breakout...but it definitely cuts them down. If your acne is cystic (hard painful red bumps under the skin that never get a whitehead) then you need to go to a dermatologist or doctor. They will give your some oral antibiotics and a topical treatment...and sometimes they use cortisone. Cystic acne can lead to nasty scars (think Edward James Almost) so you should get that looked at as soon as possible if you start getting those.
A doctor can give you several different things to try..but i have had the best luck with the 2.5% or even a 5% benzoyl peroxide solution and moisturizer and drinking tons of water.
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Post by Harm's Way on Jan 28, 2006 11:42:42 GMT -5
Thanks guys, youre the best!  Ive started on pro-active and Ive decided Ill go to the Doctors about it, if they dont start to clear up. And Im drinking like a fish lol Plus Ive sorted everything out with my girlfriend. Thanks guys - you rock! |
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Post by BtVSFigs Admin on Mar 27, 2006 23:09:04 GMT -5
Sorry to come to this so late, but I've found the biggest secret to be just to not touch it. I have truly experiemented with this, and if you just don't touch any part of your face with your fingers or keep from doing it as much as possible, you'll see a drastic improvement. Most of the excess oil on yur face comes from your hands. So combine not touching it and a good wash (I use proactive) and it'll clear right up. Worked for me.
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